If you’ve ever said, “gentle parenting doesn’t work for my kid,” you’re not alone. We re breaking down the unspoken truths about why gentle parenting feels so hard, especially when we didn’t grow up with it, and how modern parenting culture may be getting it wrong. Featuring research-back insight and real tools that work in your living room when your child is losing it, this is for every parent trying to hold the line and the relationship.

I made a social media post about filling your own cup and it got me thinking about the importance of taking care of ourselves as parents as much as we do with our own kids. Later that afternoon, I coincidentally, stumbled upon the scientific reasoning behind why filling up your own cup is vitally important since we oftentimes succumb to the pressures parents face to be perfect parents while putting our needs second, if not totally unmet due to excessive levels of sacrifice parents subject themselves to.