Everyone's talking about screen time limits and getting kids outside. Jonathan Haidt's research on experiential volume resonates with exhausted parents everywhere. But here's what nobody's saying: his solution works brilliantly for boys and completely misses the mark for girls. Not because he's wrong, because boys and girls are developing identity in fundamentally different ways, and one-size-fits-all digital interventions can't address both. If you've tried limiting your daughter's phone and she seems worse, or noticed your son won't engage with anything that isn't a screen, this is why.