Everyone's talking about eldest daughters—but your oldest son, younger daughter, and youngest son are navigating their own invisible pressures based on birth order and gender. Here's what parents miss about how patriarchy, biology, and family dynamics shape each child differently (and why it matters for their adult relationships, work, and mental health).

Most parents think accountability means consequences, but research across neuroscience, attachment theory, and restorative justice shows punishment doesn't build internal capacity for responsibility—repair does. This comprehensive guide breaks down the Repair Framework: what repair actually looks like at different ages, how to facilitate it when you weren't there, why going to the harmed child first matters, and how to implement this approach even when you're busy and dysregulated. Includes the real barrier most parenting advice ignores: your own nervous system. Learn how to track repairs instead of failures, teach your kids bidirectional accountability, and build the relational skills that will serve them for life.