Everyone's talking about screen time limits and getting kids outside. The advice sounds universal: less screen time, more real-world experiences. But here's what the entire conversation is missing: boys and girls are using screens to meet fundamentally different developmental needs. The same solution that works brilliantly for boys completely misses the mark for girls. If you've tried limiting your daughter's phone and she seems worse or noticed your son won't engage with anything that isn't a screen, this explains why - and what to do instead.